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No. 18: Eating Mood Foods

This week, to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellness … Coping KeteI will eat at least one Mood Food every day to give myself the essentials that my body needs to operate effectively and regulate my emotions. By setting my body up to respond well to stress, I will build my resilience to distress – I will have the energy and resources I need to cope. By paying mindful attention to eating foods that are good for me in this way, I will be engaging in the practice of valuing myself. I could also use this as a chance to explore new foods and recipes. Mood Foods contain magnesium, selenium, B-vitamins, folic acid, tyrosine, tryptophan and zinc, among other things. These vitamins and minerals are involved in low energy, concentration, insomnia, irritability, confusion, anxiety and low motivation. There is an excellently detailed list of foods to incorporate in the Nutrients Table at www.mentalhealth.org.uk. In the Engage Booster Group, we circled the foods we liked or might like on the Nutrients Table and then found ways of incorporating them into one meal a day. Everyone who tried it noticed a difference in the way they felt two weeks later, even though nothing in their environment had changed. The group decided to try to continue with this for another month and see what happened. Some Good Mood Foods: 

    • Brazil nuts – 3 brazil nuts a day meets all of your magnesium and selenium needs.
    • LSA: A combination of ground linseed, sunflower seeds and almonds that can be sprinkled over most foods to add magnesium, selenium, tryptophan, zinc and B3 content to whatever you are eating. Or just eat whole almonds and sunflower seeds.
    • Bananas – these are a power food, they contain so many essentials and all of the essentials we named above.
    • Blackberries, Pineapple, Kiwifruit
    • Peas, Spinach, Broccoli
    • Salmon, Tuna, Mussels – for omega-3 oils, folic acid, B vitamins and zinc.
    • Olive oil
    • Brown rice, Wholemeal pasta, Wholemeal bread – wholegrains contain Folic Acid, magnesium and important B vitamins. They also provide you with longer lasting energy and make you feel full longer than processed grains.
    • Plain yoghurt, Parmesan Cheese, Cheddar Cheese
    • Miso soup – zinc and tyrosine: you can also cook with miso, it’ s a soy-bean extract. Marmite is a good source of tyrosine too.

Once I’ve gotten comfortable eating and using these foods, I will add ‘Eat and Prepare a Mood Food’ to my Personal Coping Kete as a way of shifting my mood and engaging with resilience when I am feeling distressed.

No 17. What Would Goofy Do?

This week, in order to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellness… Coping Kete I will practice taking some time out with a notebook and doing a writing exercise to cope with stress. When I think I need a break from the moment, I will sit down with a notebook and choose a cartoon character. I will imagine that this cartoon character is in my situation instead of me. I will write for 5 minutes about how this character would view and react to the situation. It will distract me and maybe even give me a different perspective of things. I will need to keep a notebook and pen or pencil in my bag or pocket for this one. Once I am used to doing writing exercises when I am not particularly upset, I will add ‘What Would A Cartoon Character Do? Writing Exercise’ to my Personal Coping Kete as a way to shift unwanted moods.

No 16 – Regular contact

This week, in order to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellness… Coping KeteI will reach out to another person to talk about my day and what’ s on my plate every day. I will also give the other person the chance to talk to me about their day and what is on their plate at the same time. This way things will not build up for me and I will get ongoing support and access to other perspectives. If I am upset, I might get comfort and understanding. This may take some planning, especially for those of us who are still building a social support network. On days when I do not know who to ring, visit or chat to at the water cooler, I will call Youthline, Warmline or Lifeline and utilise a pair of expert ears. It helps to make a list of people you can call. And to start off with there’ s\r

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  • Youthline – Ph: 0800 37 66 33 | Free text: 234 | email: talk@youthline.co.nz
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  • Warmline – Ph: 0508 WARMLINE or 0508 927 654
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  • Lifeline – Ph: 0800 LIFE LINE or 0800 543 345
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  • The Phobic Trust: 24-Hour Anxiety Help-Line; 0800 1 4 ANXIETY
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  • A parent; A sibling or cousin; A friend; Another friend; A colleague
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Once I am used to reaching out to someone regularly, I will add “Call Someone To Talk About It” to my Personal Coping Kete as something to do during times of stress. \r

No. 15 – The Mini Self-Hug

This week, to attain, maintain or regain a sense of wellbeing … Coping Kete I will practice using sensation to self-soothe and slow things down. I will place my right palm on the front of my left shoulder, with my arm across the front of my body. I will feel the warmth of my hand soaking into my skin and muscles. I will notice the solidity of my arm cradling my body. I will focus my thoughts on the sensations in my hand and shoulder and my arm across my chest. I might gently stroke my shoulder to give myself comfort or press my palm into my shoulder. I will take a few deep, relaxing breaths and let myself know that everything will be okay in the end. This exercise is kind of like giving yourself a little nuturing mini-hug and it can be done anywhere, relatively inconspicuously. Once I’m used to doing this regularly, I will add it to my Personal Coping Kete to try during moments of stress and distress.

No. 14 – A Letter to The Past

This week in order to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellness Coping Kete I will use letter-writing as a means of private expression. If I find myself thinking over and over a past negative experience, I will write a letter to one of the people in the situation or my past self explaining how it was for me and airing any unfinished business. I will finish the letter by writing what I need now and what I can do for myself now. When I have written down everything I wanted to say but didn’t have the chance to, I will screw the letter up and throw it away as a symbolic gesture of moving on from things I cannot change. I will then turn my attention to one small thing I have been needing or wanting to get done. Whenever my thoughts turn back to the experience, I will remember what was at the heart of my letter and give myself empathy and compassion for what has distressed me. I will then remember that moment of releasing it and bring my thoughts back to the current moment by describing the immediate situation to myself. Often we need to let go more than once. If I find this engagement strategy helpful, I will add it to my Personal Coping Kete as a way of expressing feelings about the past again later.

No. 13 – Building a Room for Possibility

This week, to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellness… Coping Kete I will practice focusing my thoughts on the inevitability of change to help shift bad moods. To start with, I will practice this strategy for minor mood changes. When I notice a slight shift in mood or a bit of stress, I will take a breath and say things to myself like, “everything changes and so will this,” or “this too shall pass.” I will leave space in my thoughts for the possibility of things being different. I will remind myself that nothing stays the same forever. In this way, I will make sure that my thoughts are not promoting a hopeless way of looking at my situation or experiences. I will then turn my attention to something else altogether in order to shift the moment. Sometimes it is a sense that we will feel this way or be dealing with the same problems forever that makes things so unbearable or overwhelming. Once I am comfortable thinking this way to get through the smaller moments, I will add it to my Personal Coping Kete as a self-soothing strategy for moments of heightened distress, when perspective might be lost. I will be able to remind myself of all the smaller instances in which I told myself it would pass, and it did.

No. 12 – Power Ballads

This week in order attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellness… Coping Kete I will spend 5 minutes every day singing along to music. If I can’t find a CD or set of songs to play, I will sing old songs I know off by heart. If I have time on my hands and am feeling anxious or stressed, I will pass some of the time by singing. I can do this alone or with others. Singing has real physical effects which you can use to your advantage. Singing changes the way we are breathing and this alters the level of CO2 in our bloodstreams, which triggers the release of neurotransmitters and creates a sense of elation. Depending on the song you are singing, it can also be a powerful form of self-expression and sense of connection. Singing is a very good way of changing the moment for ourselves. Once I’ve gotten used to spending some time singing, I will add ‘Power Ballads’ to my Personal Coping Kete as a strategy to shift my mood when I am feeling distressed.

No. 11 – Float for a Moment

This week, in order to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellness… Coping Kete I will practice using visualisations to shift my moment. Each day I will take a minute to pay attention to taking deep, slow breaths while I briefly visualise myself floating on my back down a calm river. The sun is shining, but not too hotly. I am mindful of the way the sun feels on my closed eyelids and how the buoyant water feels flowing beneath me. I allow the river to take me where it will, sometimes moving faster and other times meandering slowly; I cannot push the water. I will spend just a minute holding this image, and the sensations it brings, in my mind. If my attention drifts onto other things, I will mentally drop the worries in the river and watch them flow away. I will then return to the situation at hand, with my centred and more accepting state of awareness. I will observe how I feel afterwards. Once I am familiar with doing this visualisation to shift my attention, I will add it to my Personal Coping Kete as a way of soothing or distracting myself from anxiety, anger or low moods.

No. 10 – Permission to be Fully Human

This week, in order to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellbeing… Coping Kete I will have realistic expectations of myself and give myself permission to be average. By giving myself permission to be average this week, I free myself from the pressures of trying to be perfect or trying to appear like I’ve got everything together. I will tell myself things like “Today I only need to do what I can do. What I can do is enough.” This week it will be okay to make mistakes and say silly things occasionally, to not know what is happening, to need to ask questions and to feel distressing emotions. If I notice I am worrying about those things, I will remind myself “I only need to do what I can do. What I can do is enough.” Often times it is our negative judgement of our own experiences and the pressure we put on ourselves to achieve our high expectations that creates and/or intensifies our experiences of stress and distress. This week, I give myself permission to be fully human, rather than an idealised version of myself. My mistakes are learning experiences that will strengthen me, not distressing experiences to regret and avoid. Once I have experienced a whole week of being average and nothing terrible happening as I consequence, I will add ‘Give Myself Permission to Be Human’ to my Personal Coping Kete. When I notice that I am feeling stressed, pressed or distressed, I will remind myself that all I need to do is survive the current moment.

No. 9 – A Body of Strengths

This week, in order to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellness … Coping Kete I will remind myself of my strengths regularly throughout my day. If I find this difficult to do off the top of my head, I will prepare a written list in advance that I can pull from pocket or bag and read. I will add to this list as time goes on and I get better at identifying the positive attributes, qualities and skills that I possess. If I am unsure of my strengths and skills, I will ask people who know me to have a think about it and get back to me with what they think my positive qualities are. Once I am used to thinking about my positive qualities a bit, I will add ‘Remember I am a Body of Strengths’ to my Personal Coping Kete. By thinking about my strengths during moments of stress and distress, I will work to balance my thoughts, emotions and physical responses. Whenever I notice that my self-talk is full of put-downs, self-directed insults or pessimistic expectations I will start listing in my head the strengths and skills that I have shown in the past. It can help to do a few diaphragmatic breaths first, especially if you are really distressed. See Week 6 for instructions on how to learn diaphragmatic breathing. Once you’ve learned it, it’s a great complement to most strategies. www.engagenz.co.nz/wordpress/?tag=breathing-exercises