The Coping Kete

No. 102: Remembering I am not my Thoughts

This week, to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellbeing…

… I will practice reminding myself that automatic thoughts are ideas not facts. This week I will remember that I am not my thoughts.

We all have automatic thoughts constantly throughout the day as our minds try to figure out what is happening around us. We can have automatic thoughts about anything that we have ever seen or heard. We can have automatic thoughts that we disagree with and that are the opposite of what we want, so my automatic thoughts do not really say anything about me or who I am. They really are just ideas.

This week, as I move through my day, I will practice observing my thoughts and reminding myself that “these are ideas I have had, but they are not me.”

Once I am comfortable thinking about my thoughts as ideas not facts about who I am, I will add this to my Personal Coping Kete as a way of soothing distress with my self-talk. When I notice I am distressed, I will observe my thoughts and remind myself these are ideas. I will look at which of these ideas I want to hold onto and which ones I don’t really agree with. When I have thoughts I do not want to have, I will remember that it is normal to have thoughts I don’t agree with. It doesn’t mean anything bad about me.

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