The Coping Kete

No. 9 – A Body of Strengths

This week, in order to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellness  …

I will remind myself of my strengths regularly throughout my day. If I find this difficult to do off the top of my head, I will prepare a written list in advance that I can pull from pocket or bag and read.  I will add to this list as time goes on and I get better at identifying the positive attributes, qualities and skills that I possess.  If I am unsure of my strengths and skills, I will ask people who know me to have a think about it and get back to me with what they think my positive qualities are.

Once I am used to thinking about my positive qualities a bit, I will add ‘Remember I am a Body of Strengths’ to my Personal Coping Kete.

By thinking about my strengths during moments of stress and distress, I will work to balance my thoughts, emotions and physical responses. Whenever I notice that my self-talk is full of put-downs, self-directed insults or pessimistic expectations I will start listing in my head the strengths and skills that I have shown in the past.

It can help to do a few diaphragmatic breaths first, especially if you are really distressed. See Week 6 for instructions on how to learn diaphragmatic breathing.  Once you’ve learned it, it’s a great complement to most strategies.

One Thought on “No. 9 – A Body of Strengths

  1. I’ve found lately, especially as winter drags on and a few things don’t go the way I want them to, how I start to get self-deprecating; I think I am more comfortable with my weaknesses than I am with my strengths and positives. I’ve been aware of them for longer I suppose, so that’s sometimes where I go when I encounter stress. But when I make myself look at the strengths I have, it makes the hopelessness dissipate and gives me a bit of confidence. And it makes me a bit more comfortable owning those good things about myself.

    Of course, there was once a time, when I wasn’t able to see my skills or strengths even when I looked; I believed they didn’t exist. And that’s where the people around you can come in handy, if you’ve got any. If you don’t have people around you who you trust right now, then a counselor or other support service can fill that gap while you build your support structures; it’s what they are there for.

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