The Coping Kete

No. 59: Building a Positive Memory Bank

This week to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellbeing…

… I will use self-talk to congratulate and praise myself for each small positive thing that happens or each thing that I do well. That means that this week I will notice the little moments of strength, skill, safety and resilience. I will consciously acknowledge these moments to myself, by describing them in my head and giving myself some kind of ‘well done’ or ‘good one’ and actually let myself feel good about it. I will make sure that I smile each time.

Once I am used to acknowledging my strengths and successes in everyday moments, I will add it to my Personal Coping Kete as a way of soothing negative automatic thoughts during times of stress and distress.

Whenever I notice myself feeling stressed, pressed or distressed, I will recall these moments of self-praise to give myself some supportive evidence that I can get through this moment and work to notice the good things I am doing in this moment right now. I will bring myself back to the concept that ‘this too shall pass‘ by building memories of myself getting through and recalling them when I need to. This starts by building my awareness of the small moments when things go well, rather than only counting the big events as meaningful.

One Thought on “No. 59: Building a Positive Memory Bank

  1. This works best if you really do notice SMALL things – getting out of bed, doing your basic hygiene things, eating something nourishing, saying hello to someone, smiling with someone on the street, calming yourself, reading a book, talking with someone, answering a question, helping with something, asking for help…. all of those really small choices we make each day that show we are competent and safe in the world, even just for a moment.

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