The Coping Kete

No. 27: Finding a Kernel Worth Carrying

This week, to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellbeing …

I will practice finding a positive lesson in my daily experiences, particularly things that are distressing, stressful or downright regrettable. This week, I will remind myself of two things: firstly, I can create the meaning of the things in my life, and secondly, mistakes are a necessary part of evolving.

Often we dwell on the aspects of experience that could have been better and increase our own distress. Instead of doing that, I will learn something about the strengths I want to develop,  how other people see things and how to cope. I will create meanings that boost me up not pull me down. Simply being able to survive some things is a lesson about my own resilience, which will serve me well into the future.

I will change the things I can change and accept the things that I can’t change about my experiences, but what I carry with me from them will be something worth carrying.

I will learn to do this by taking some mental time out to either write in a journal or think about something positive I can take away from the experience.  I could also talk through the experience and what to take from it with a therapist, trusted friend or whanau member.

This contemplation is a respectful time in which I am my own kind-hearted teacher.

Once I am comfortable thinking about the meaningful, positive lessons I can take from daily situations, I will add it to me Personal Coping Kete as a strategy for reducing negative reactions to the things that go wrong in my life.

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