The Coping Kete

No. 52: Radical Acceptance

This week to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellbeing…

I will practice radical acceptance. Acceptance is “The action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered.”  Radical Acceptance is “seeing exactly what is [even the really bad things] and just… accepting the fact of its existence.

This week I consent to receive life on its own terms. 

By practicing Radical Acceptance, I give up on fighting reality. I accept what is and what isn’t. It means I accept the things I cannot change. It doesn’t mean I become passive and give up on changing the things I can change. This week I will practice telling the difference between the two.

In accepting how things are, I will be free to respond to current events as they really are and nurture myself in the most effective way. In accepting how things are, I give up on all self-blame or negative judgement, because I also accept myself and my reactions.

I will accept what is happening and what I need in the moment, and I will give it to myself.

Motto for the week “que sera sera… whatever will be, will be.”

Once I am used to using radical acceptance with the everyday stuff, I will add it to my Personal Coping Kete as a strategy for soothing unwanted emotions and letting go of distressing thoughts. When I find myself feeling stressed, pressed or distressed, I will observe myself without judgement and without wasting any energy on denying or resisting what is happening or how I feel.

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Acknowledgement: Marsha Linehan is known for popularising mindfulness and the concept of radical acceptance in the mental health community with Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT).  

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