The Coping Kete

No. 34: Signs of Safety

This week, to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellbeing, when I am stressed, pressed or distressed…

I will practice feeding myself signs of safety. As I move through my day, I will take moments to mentally scan my body, describing to myself everything that shows I am ultimately safe right now – ‘my head is connected to my neck, my shoulders are strong, my arms are working, my heart is beating, my mind is thinking, I can move my legs, I am breathing.’ As I do this, I will practice taking slow breaths through my nose, into my belly and out through pursed lips. 

I will remind myself that no matter how I feel, I can still compel my muscles to move.

When I am comfortable giving myself signs of safety in everyday situations, I will add it to my Personal Coping Kete as a way soothing anxious or distressing thoughts. No matter what level of disaster or disarray is happening, I will give myself these messages of safety to balance out my fear responses. This will help me tell myself “I can handle this,” and believe it.

One Thought on “No. 34: Signs of Safety

  1. engageblog on March 22, 2011 at 22:58 said:

    I only managed to successfully start doing this without undermining it, when I accepted that I was already extremely skilled at noticing weaknesses, limitations and threats. I accepted that I did not need to consciously develop that skill, but could relax and trust that I will automatically notice those things when they are there. The skill I DID need to develop was noticing my strengths. It was like I needed to make a mental shift and give myself permission to stop searching for negatives all the time first.

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