The Coping Kete

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No. 5 – Regular Self-Checks

This week, to attain, maintain or retain my sense of wellness …

I will practice being mindful of what I am feeling and what I need.  Once every hour or two, I will check in by mentally asking myself ’what do I feel right now?’ and then ‘what do I need to do for myself right now?’

I will give myself those things that I am capable of giving (or getting).  Do I need food? Sleep? A breath or two? Reassurance? A kind thought? A glass of water? A chat? A distraction? Assistance? By creating small moments in my day, I will become practiced in the art of responding to my needs as well as privately connecting with and expressing my feelings.

Once I am comfortable with creating moments in my days, I will add ‘Do a Self-Check’ to my Personal Coping Kete as a strategy for moments of stress and distress.

No. 4 – Open Posture

This week, to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellbeing …

I will practice being aware of my body and making sure my posture is straight and comfortable, allowing for easy breathing and a stance of strength. Keeping the lungs open and my breathing regular will help to balance out my mood.

Once I am familiar with changing my posture and observing its effects on my mood, I will add it to my Personal Coping Kete for times of stress and distress.

No. 3 – Space to Make Considered Responses

This week, in order to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellness…

I will practice giving myself the opportunity to respond consciously with awareness, rather than automatically, based on emotion.  Each day I will take 5 minutes out, to think about a time of minor stress during the day and write down in a notebook

  • what just happened
  • what it made me think of at the time
  • what I would like to do next
  • and what I will do next

Sometimes we get distressed because things seem overwhelming and out of our control.

If we take some time out of the situation and work through it, we are able to access a wider perspective of our environment, why it’s affecting us and what to do next.

Writing helps to focus the mind on the task at hand & flick us over into a more methodical frame of mind.

Once I have gotten comfortable with thinking about my experiences in this way, I will add ‘Write Myself Through a Considered Response’ to my Personal Coping Kete for use in times of stress and distress.

No. 2 – Small Moments of Expression

This week, to attain, maintain or regain my sense of wellbeing…

…I will practice letting the people around me know what I am feeling in the moment.  This could be a proper chat if I need it and it’s possible at the time, or it could be a simple, throw-away comment – not all expression needs to be in-depth and serious, even if what I am communicating is serious.  Sometimes, just saying it out loud and having it heard without judgement is all I need.  This week, I will practice starting small if the idea of expressing myself makes me nervous, by practicing sharing small moments of stress and distress – “e.g. man this is full on!”

Once I am comfortable doing this, I will add ‘Small Moment of Expression’ to my Personal Coping Kete for use during times of stress and distress.

Once I have practiced small moments of expression, I will be better able to give myself the chance to be supported when I am distressed. I can express myself to a friend, family member, help-line, key-worker, doctor, therapist, peer support worker, teacher, colleague, boss, class-mate, facebook friend, whoever is present at the time. If there is no-one around at the time I am stressed or distressed, I will call someone.